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Fertility Authority’s Blog of the Week: Almost A Father

The blog we’d like to feature this week is Almost A Father

Denny’s infertility journey began with the words "This time next year there will be three of us" written on the inside cover of a copy of "What To Expect When You're Expecting." Six IUIs, one GIFT, five IVFs, six infertility doctors, two miscarriages, one chemical pregnancy, $70,000, two trips to New Jersey just a month after 9/11 and he and his wife finally got their IVF baby.

Throughout their infertility journey Denny’s wife was frustrated by the lack of literature written by men on the topic of infertility. She couldn’t understand why he reacted so differently than her, or sometimes why he didn’t react at all. With the advice of an infertility therapist 2 years into their infertility treatments, he began keeping a journal of his day-to-day perspective. When he shared some of his thoughts at a RESOLVE infertility support group, not only did his wife finally understand his perspective, but the other guys in the group began to open up as well. The combination of his journals during their cycles, and the infertility support groups became the book, “Almost A Father.” Soon after, he started the blog.

He decided to continue to blog about the topic to provide the support that his wife had searched for during their cycles for women and couples struggling to find common ground in a process that arguably focuses a lot on the woman. He explains, “Men often feel like they are a utilitarian part of a process that started as an intimate expression of love.” Denny expressed his hopes for his blog stating, “I hope it will provide some comfort and conversational ice breakers for couples that so often find themselves at odds with each other during the emotional roller coaster of infertility” and for that Denny, we commend you.

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