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Should I See a Doctor NOW? ... Or Maybe Later?

So, you've been trying to conceive for a while now. It seems like a while to you. It seems like an eternity to your mother. So how do you know if it's time to declare yourself "infertile" or at least seek some professional help?

Most experts advise that if you're under 35 and have been trying for at least a year or over 35 and have been trying for at least six months, you may want to talk to a fertility doctor.

(I was nearly 41 when I finally called to make an appointment. They sent an ambulance to my house to get me.)

But seriously, if you are over 40, and you are serious about getting pregnant, you probably shouldn't be fooling around (or maybe you should befooling around more?)

You know what I mean.

I?m not saying it's time to panic (I don't believe it's ever time to panic), but a woman's fertility does start dropping dramatically after 35, and nose-diving after 40.

So while age shouldn't be your only determining factor when deciding whether or not to go to a fertility doctor, it's OK to keep in mind that you're not getting any younger. (The fact that your mother's not getting any younger is important but not really relevant.)

Talk to your regular gynecologist and see what he or she thinks. But remember: The ultimate decision of whether or not to seek fertility treatment is totally up to you and your husband/partner/loverboy/hunk-o?-man/or whatever the hell people call him, her, it or them these days.