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Infertility Support Groups

Infertility can be a lonely experience when friends are having children and you are still trying. People who mean to be supportive often say the most unhelpful things. But you probably know that – you’re probably frustrated (or angry or sad) each time you get invited to a baby shower; and most likely you’ve been on the receiving end of those “just relax” comments. So joining a group where your feelings and frustrations will be understood, and where you’ll become empowered as a patient, may be just what you need.

People in individual or couple’s therapy may join a group as well because they want support from others having the same experiences.

Types of Groups

Support groups can take many forms. In most cases, a mental health professional leads the group and helps keep the discussion focused. Some groups are for women or men only; some are for couples. They often meet weekly, for a set number of weeks, and for a set amount of time – an hour to an hour and a half is common. A typical group size is six to eight individuals or four to six couples, but that can vary.

Other groups are “drop-in” in nature; members attend as they wish, and there is no professional leader.

Both groups serve different purposes. In the professionally-led groups, deeper levels of discussion are possible, and as trust builds members bond. Often, after the group officially ends, they continue to meet without a group leader. Drop-in groups are a good place to network and learn about resources in your area.

Mind-body groups, which integrate relaxation and stress management strategies along with cognitive restructuring, are not traditional support groups, but are gaining popularity.

Significant Benefits

A 1999 study reported that the depression and anxiety rates for women in either a professionally-led support group or in a mind-body group were greatly reduced compared to the women who were not in a group. In addition, the conception rates were 54 percent for the support group participants and 55 percent for the mind-body group participants, compared to the 22 percent conception rate of those who were not in a group within the same period.

Many infertility practices and clinics offer support groups or can help you find one in your area. Other helpful resources include RESOLVE and the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.

Comments (3)

i m 36. my husband has male infertility. before 35 i was ok. after 35 i feel very unhappy and alone. like as if i am in some lonely island.


who posted above. i feel for you. i understand you. Im sorry for you and i am sorry for my self.

we are very unfortunate.

I am 42 and unfortunately I have never been pregnant, not even once. My first husband we found out after 11+ years of marriage had male infertility and we didn't have the money for all the treatments we would have had to do so we never had any children together. I am now remarried to a wonderful man and after a year of trying have now found out my FSH levels are too high and the only way I will get pregnant now is with egg donation. My heart is so broken and I have a hard time with the decision we need to make of whether to use a donor or not because this is also his 2nd marriage and he is 49 and has 3 grown kids and 3 grandchildren.

I feel guilty because I want a child more than anything else in the world but he has already been there done that. He is supportive and wants me to have a baby but if it doesn't happen it's ok too.

I feel so alone and sad because it seems like I am the only one going through this and I have no one to talk to about it that will actually understand. Everyone I know has had children or is having them now. I live in Utah where it seems everyone is pregnant or is getting pregnant over and over and its just so hard to be around. I am happy for people when I hear they are expecting a baby but I just want that for me too.

Sorry this was so long and thanks for letting me post.


I am new on this site and not quite sure how it works so I guess I will learn along the way so excuse me for any mistakes!

I am 43 yrs old!! I have suffered three miscarriages from when i was 22,39, 42 I have had one failed attempt of IVF had two tries with clomid and IUI the first one I got pg but resulted in MC.

I really do not know what to do from here. I seem to be fine but each month my MS arrives I am a complete wreck and completely unable to cope. Not really sure what to do next as I try and put it all to the back of my mind but clearly that is not working!!


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