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Getting Started with Surrogacy or Gestational Care

If you’ve decided on surrogacy, your first steps are to coordinate your plans with your fertility clinic and recruit a surrogate. Your fertility clinic may have its own surrogacy program, or you may want to locate your own surrogate. There are two common routes.

  • Some people ask a sister, a close relative or friend — someone they know and trust. Often called a “known carrier,” this woman must be willing to undergo the fertility drugs and medical procedures necessary to prepare her to receive the embryos (generally fertilized via IVF), and then to carry the pregnancy to term.
  • Most people aren’t fortunate to have friend or relative to carry their baby, so they turn to a surrogacy agency. Your fertility clinic should have a referral list of reputable agencies. Or you can network with others struggling with infertility in support groups and in online chat rooms.

Agencies that specialize in recruiting surrogates, commonly called gestational carriers, generally screen applicants psychologically and physically. Most require candidates to have children, a stable relationship and economic security. (That is, money should not be their main motivation.) Most surrogates enjoy being pregnant and have a history of uncomplicated pregnancies. Most agencies have experienced surrogates who are familiar with the emotional, medical, and legal aspects of carrying a baby to term.

When you explore surrogacy agencies, as with locating any other critical service, get referrals from professionals, meet with the staff, and clarify the range of issues from fees and fee schedules to screening processes and legal protocols.

Whether you plan to use your own gametes (sperm and eggs), donor gametes, or a combination thereof, your fertility clinic needs to work closely with you and your gestational carrier. Also, you must retain an attorney experienced in gestational surrogacy. Some states and countries prohibit surrogacy practices; others don’t recognize surrogacy agreements.

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I have someone to be a surrogate for me what I am wondering is how much would it cost for me to get my eggs taken out from my body to be used for my surrogate and how much would it cost for the IVF for my surrogate. She has had 4 successful pregnancies and is in healthy condition. If someone could give me a rough estimate it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Hello Joelle,

Thank you for reaching out with this question. The process that you're referring to is IVF with a surrogate - the national average for one IVF cycle in the United States is roughly $12,500. Both you and the surrogate would need to be evaluated by a Reproductive Endocrinologist (fertility specialist) to determine treatment eligibility. You would need to meet with a lawyer that specializes in surrogacy contracts to have a surrogacy contract written up. The first step would be meeting with a fertility specialist and discussing your options. They will review the process in detail with you and provide you with some price quotes.

Best of luck,
Julie

Hello, My husband and I are currently looking for a surrogate. Cost is a huge factor as we do not have the type of money an agency charges. We are in southern California and are looking for someone who would really like to help. Our story can be discussed offline. We have frozen embryos stored and are hoping to be able to experience parenthood. Dlhcarr@aol.com.

I would encourage you to go to the FertileThoughts.com website to post your offer there. Many people are looking for surrogates!!! There is an entire board on surrogacy. Thank you so much for wanting to be a part of the dream to make a family!

I have thought about this a my life it is something I have always wanted to do I have 4 children of my own and am 33 yrs old I live in pa

If you are interested in becoming a surrogate, you should contact a surrogacy agency in your area, or a fertility clinic that has a surrogacy program. They can give you complete information. Best, Claire

I am looking for a surrogate. I am kit able to conceive after years of infertity drugs and surgery. If anyone is interested or knows of a reputable agency I would be ever grateful. I am in Tennessee.

Im curious to know if u found a surrogate and how things r going I have always wanted to help a family in need to be a mother is a wonderful thing

Hi Denise, We would be happy to connect you with a fertility doctor who specializes in third party reproduction. Give us a call at 1-855-955-BABY (2229) to get started! Kim

We have one child but when we decided to give life for one more baby we faced with a certain problem (medical indexes did not allow us to do it in a natural way). We found a clinic and it seems to us that it is the best one in Europe among centers for reproductive medicine. This clinic has own base of surrogate mothers and we had a possibility to choose the best one that meet our needs. Clinic works on legal base therefore our program was fulfilled without any problems. Perfect surrogate mother, service and result! Today we have a healthy son.

Hello...please call me at (314)200-5325 if you are still looking for a surrogate. Thanks, Amy

Hi! My husband and I reside in NY. I had a hysterectomy in my 20's and am unable to carry a child, however, I do have one healthy ovary and a year ago we were able to successfully do an egg retrieval which resulted in 7 healthy embryos. The embryos are currently frozen. We are hoping to work with someone who can carry a child but is in need of embryos or eggs. My husband and I are both in our 30's and are relatively healthy with no genetic issues. If possible we would love to help another couple while helping ourselves. If anyone is interested in starting a dialogue to discuss how we can help each other, please contact us. dena_and_anthony@yahoo.com

I had one successful pregnancy, but due to complications after giving birth, they had to do a hysterectomy.

We would like to find a caring and loving person to make our dreams a reality. We would like to find someone that lived in or around Atlanta, GA.

Hi. I can recommend you to use services of legal clinic. It will be everything for sure and with guarantee. My husband and I have use service of surrogate mother and we were surprised with such a high level of quality and standards in this clinic. Clinic has a perfect reputation and doctors try their best to receive a positive result for clients. they control everything therefore surrogacy program go in good way.

Hi. I can recommend you to use services of legal clinic. It will be everything for sure and with guarantee. My husband and I have use service of surrogate mother and we were surprised with such a high level of quality and standards in this clinic. Clinic has a perfect reputation and doctors try their best to receive a positive result for clients. they control everything therefore surrogacy program go in good way.

I live in NY do to medical reasons I can not carry a child. My friend has offered to carry for us but I can't find any info on this for NY we are at a loss

I recently found out that I am unable to carry a child but I would love to be a mother. I need someone that is willing to assist my husband and I in starting our family.
If you are willing and able to assist us, please let me know.

Thanks,

Nicole

Hello...call me at (314)200-5325 if you are still looking into surrogacy. Thanks!

i would do that for you and u could be there through the whole process even the birth ;-) but what state are u in? I have uncomplicated births and non medicated even, all mine have been natural. e mail me if ur still interested.

I live in California and need a low cost surrogate. I can not have children and my husband wants them so much!! Can anyone tell me where to find a surrogate that is not expensive? Thanks

Hi, my name is Fabiola, Im married and two beautiful children. The girl is 5 and my boy is 2. I'd love to be a surrogate mother, because I want people to feel the happiness of being a mom..I really want to do this for people unable to carry a child..
Please contact me for more information, thank you =)

I live in NY do to medical reasons I can not carry a child. My friend has offered to carry for us but I can't find any info on this for NY we are at a loss

this is exactly how I feel and more people should do this for others that can't concieve. my children are 20,14 and 12 but all my pregnancies were easy compared to some ;-( I want to give to others this joy.

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