Are you planning to tell your donor conceived child about his/her origins? This is a very personal matter and parents are responsible for making this choice. Situations vary and there is no one right answer for everyone. Increasingly more literature, both lay and medical, is being published to help assist families as they contemplate how best to address this issue with their son or daughter. There are also online resources; chat rooms, forums and support groups which may be helpful. But ultimately, this decision rests in the hands of the parent(s) to determine how best to deal with their child's future desire to know they are donor conceived.
So if you can find a sperm donor for free, why use a sperm bank? “What we’re really talking about is the safety,” says Cappy Rothman, M.D., co-founder and medical director of California Cryobank. “Sperm that a recipient is purchasing [from a sperm bank] has been screened for sexually transmitted diseases, and the donor has been screened for genetic diseases.”