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Sarah Jessica Parker Talks About Surrogacy
Sarah Jessica Parker and her husband Matthew Broderick (who have a 7-year-old son named James Wilkie) expanded their family on June 22 of last year when they welcomed twin daughters Tabitha Hodge (nicknamed "Babe") and Marion Loretta Elwell (nicknamed "Kitty") via a surrogate mother. "[I] tried and tried and tried and tried and tried to get pregnant," shares Parker in the May issue of Vogue. "But it just was not to be, the conventional way -- I would give birth as often as I could, if I could." That's why the couple turned to surrogacy.
While the 45-year-old actress was excited at the prospect of having twin daughters, the nine months leading up to their arrival was tough. "I think the biggest thing [about surrogacy] is you can't celebrate something that is potentially filled with joy, nor can you share fears and worries about every checkup, you know -- the 16-week checkup, the amnio, the this, the that..." she says. "And the waiting is different, the whole nine months. We couldn't talk about the fact that we were having children to anybody for soooo long. All the stuff that matters is secretive and worrisome. You can't talk about how you feel about the woman who's carrying your children; you can only talk about it to your husband. And he just doesn't want to talk about it as much as you do."
Upon seeing her new babies for the first time, SJP was speechless. "Meeting your children rather than giving birth to them, it's as if, um, it's -- suspended animation," she shares. "The gestational experience is gone. It's as if everything else disappears for a moment, and the world goes silent and -- I can't explain it except to say that nothing else existed. I don't remember anything but the blanket on the bed that they were lying on and my husband's face and their faces and my son's. It's literally as if sound is sucked from the room. Time stands still. It's so different, and equally extraordinary." Read more.