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Lesbians and Donor Insemination

Donor insemination is an option for lesbian women or couples who wish to have a biological connection to their child. You may use an anonymous sperm donor through a sperm bank or fertility center, or a known donor who may be a friend or relative.

The type of insemination you’ll use will be based on a number of factors, including personal preference, cost, and fertility potential. Types of insemination include:

  • Intravaginal insemination (IVI). Unwashed sperm is placed into the vagina around the time of ovulation using a syringe or cervical cap. IVI can be done in a physician’s office or at home.
  • Intracervical insemination (ICI). Washed or unwashed sperm are placed in the cervix using a thin catheter and a syringe which pushes the sperm through the catheter. ICI is done in a physician’s office.
  • Intrauterine insemination (IUI). Washed sperm are placed in the uterus with a thin catheter that is passed through the cervix. IUI is performed in a physician’s office.

Your physician will recommend that you have a medical screening prior to trying to conceive. If you have a partner, the decision of who will carry the pregnancy may be based on age and medical conditions.

A consultation with an attorney specializing in reproductive matters, preferably one who has experience and knowledge working with same sex parents, is recommended. S/he can help with any necessary documentation regarding legal status as parents, or to define the role of a known sperm donor.


Comments (49)

I wanted to find a clinic near where I stay to get the IUI done for my partner. I have been looking but its hard finding a place.

Me and my partner are definitely looking to do this so any info is well appreciated may even some clinics in my area

My wife and I are really struggling to get pregnant. We have tried at home and the process just isn't working. I don't believe I have an issue with fertility, it might just be that we weren't doing it properly. Can anyone please help find the information I need JUST for insemination someplace close? We are so desperate to start our family. Tennessee area, thanks in advance.

Is there an office you could direct me to in my area that would do this procedure?

Is there a clinic or specific Dr. You would recommend for lesbian couples to use? We currently live in an area where same sex couples are not accepted.

Hi Susan,

I would be happy to help, please send me an email for the following information:

Your Full Name & DOB
Partners Full Name & DOB
Phone Number
Email Address
Zip Code
Insurance or Self-Pay

Any additional information you feel is relevant.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

I want my partners egg, she won't be carrying I will.. Will the baby have all the DNA PR what???

Hi Raneisha,

You are referring to reciprocal IVF. Your partner's egg or eggs will be fertilized with donor sperm and transferred to your uterus for you to carry the pregnancy. The child will have the DNA of your partner and sperm donor, but you will get to experience the pregnancy!


Ok so me and my fiancé want babies I will have some and she will have some because we plan on having a big family . We want all children to look like both of us and etc we want to know the prices and to get started ASAP . We are in st.louis mo can anyone help!!!!

Hello Kayy - I think it's wonderful that you and your partner would like to start your family. Lesbian couples have a couple of options and the prices vary depending on the procedure, age and the clinic in which you go to. If you would like more information regarding specific treatment options, treatment pricing & if you need help finding a specialist near you feel free to email me directly at I'm happy to help!

Hello my name is Alex, my girlfriend and I are 19yrs old and looking to have a child in our future once we have both finished with school. I would like to transfer my eggs to her womb and for both of us to choose a anonymous sperm donor for the pregnancy. She already has a 1yr boy but had to have a c-section with him. We live in Texas so I was hoping somebody knew where we could obtain more information about cost,risk,legal issues etc etc Thank You

Hi Alex,

What you're talking about is called "Reciprocal IVF." Your partner carries an embryo created with your egg and donor sperm. You can read more about it here:

For legal information help I would recommend visiting RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association Website, > Resources > Professional Services > Attorneys and search for professionals in your area.

If you need any additional help feel free to email me at

Best of luck,

Me and my girlfriend are pregnant using donor sperm and at home artificial insemination. .. I am now 32 weeks with our baby boy... I was wondering how do I make my girlfriend legal parent to our son. Where do I start? Who do I call?

Hi Lovette - Congratulations! My recommendation is to consult with a third party reproductive lawyer in your area. Visit RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association website at, click Resources > Professional Services > Attorneys. Good luck and if you need further assistance please feel free to contact me at

What is the average cost to donate eggs to my girlfriend?

Wendy, the procedure you are describing is In Vitro Fertilization (IVF). To discuss your fertility options you need to consult with a fertility specialist who can perform this procedure. IVF can cost anywhere from $8,000 - $15,000 without medications. This price varies depending on the state, clinic and case specific requirements. Unfortunately, fertility doctors/clinics do not accept any form of Medicare or Medicaid. If you do not feel comfortable with these fees I encourage you to go to to see if there are any clinical trials being offered in your area.

Heather - if you are referring to lesbian treatment options you could find a sperm donor with similar physical characteristics that resemble the partner that is not carrying the child and using her eggs. IVF can cost anywhere from $10,000 - $15,000 in the United States.

How much would it cost to have a baby that looks like both of the mothers.. how much roughly would that cost in California, or USA.?

You and your partner have a few options - you can do reciprocal IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) where you carry your partners egg & you can choose a sperm donor that resembles yourself. You can do regular IVF and use your own egg and choose a sperm donor that resembles your partner. You can do Artificial Insemination and choose a sperm donor that resembles your partner. If you would like more information on pricing and costs you can email me directly at

Me and my girlfriend want to have a baby but I want the child to look like the both of us . How can we make this happen ? I stopped taking birth control so I can be able to have this child with my girlfriend . I will be the carrier but how much it's gonna cost our area is in Louisiana so please help me

Hello!! Me and my wife really want to have a baby but we want to do it at home what are some thing we should know I read some about it but thing really gives me the pros and cons to doing insemination at home please help!!!

Hi I need advice on what the safest n most efficient way to conceive a and my best guy friend who is gay he is my soul mate even tho me and him r both gay we want a baby together and I have already bought the ovulation sticks to check when I'm ovulating but when that day comes what is the best way to go about inserting his sperms into my uterus we really want this Wm to work we have been thinks n discussing this for years and we think it's finally time and all we have is each other n that all we have ever had he's my everything I just want this to work all nd do it the nest way to get the best results someone please oles helo..mig this don't work we may go to doctors but we would rather try the cheap way then any other way first HELP

That's great that you are thinking about having a baby. Insemination with your friend's sperm when done in a doctor's office is not expensive. You can also do home insemination. I don't know if your plans are to co-parent, but your really should make sure you have thought everything through and you really should get an attorney's advice and guidance. I know you both have the best intentions, but you want to make sure there is an agreement about support, parenting, etc. that protects all your interests, including the baby's. All the best, Claire

Is there any possible way that once i go through my sex change that me and my girlfriend would be able to have a biological child together?

You may be able to use donor sperm and your girlfriend's egg to have a baby. Is that your question? Claire

Some women will use one partner's egg for one IVF - with the other partner carrying the baby, and the other partner's egg for a second IVF.

Me and my girlfriend wants to have a baby and we want the baby to have both of our features would the ivf fuse both of our eggs together to be fertilized

Me & my girlfriend want to start a family, she is the carrier but i want to give her my eggs... Which procedure would we need? And around how much it cost? Nyc area..

What you are talking about is reciprocal IVF, where you would use your partner's eggs but carry the baby. Our Patient Care Advocates can review costs and help you find a fertility doctor in the NYC area that works with lesbian couples. Call or email us at 855-955-2229 or Best, Claire

Hi, I'm a 23 year old lesbian and i would like to know of how does insemanation works? I am planning to have a child with my girlfriend but she will carry and i want to combine our eggs. Is it possible?

What you're talking about is called "Reciprocal IVF." Your partner carries and embryo created with your egg and donor sperm. You can read more about it here: If you need help finding a fertility doctor in your area who does reciprocal IVF, contact our Patient Care Advocates toll free at 855-955-2229, or Best, Claire

like queen up above, my wife and I would like to have a baby together. we have a friend that is willing to give us his sperm. she wants her egg fertilized and I would carry. we live in New York city... I want to know a price range for this type of procedure

hi, so I'm obviously a girl and I was wanting to get pregnant but to have my boyfriends genes in the baby too.... but see, my boyfriend is an FTM transsexual. he is currently still a girl, but he is wanting to get his surgery done soon... he is taking testosterone right now and his ovaries are basically shutting down... I was just wondering how that would work?

I know this might be a silly question but silly questions have to get answered too. I was wondering is there any way to get 2 procedures of IVI, ICI or IUI to conceive twins?

Hi Melanie, I am not sure if I understand your question, but will try to answer. You can have IVF done and (provided there is more than one healthy embryo) can transfer both embryos into the uterus to try for twins (no guarantee). IUI could result in twins if more than one egg is ovulated, but it is less controlled than IVF. Good luck, Kim

I already have a 10 yr old son from a previous relationship.I now have a girlfriend and we want to have a baby.The father of my son has agreed to give us his sprem so just curious how much it would cost for a doctor to insert it for us.

Hi Susan, The cost of an IUI cycle averages around $1,000 per cycle. There may be some legal fees associated with drawing up a custody agreement that proves your ex will be relinquishing rights to the child. Give us a call at 1-855-955-BABY (2229) or email and we will help you find a reputable clinic near you. Best, Kim

See the thing is my girlfriend doesn't want any doctors in the in the process. Can you suggest any sperm bank that's willing to sell the sperm and some prices please

Hi Mary, There are many sperm banks across the country, so it really depends on where you live. We do not currently have sperm banks in our network, but I can tell you that donor sperm ranges from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars depending on how many vials you are looking for and any additional fees the frozen sperm bank may charge. Best of luck! Kim

Hi I have a quick question my girlfriend and I want to have a baby but we want to do everything on our own. So I was just wondering if its just psosible to buy the sperm and for me to put in her?

Hi Mary, It is possible to do at-home insemination, though it can be risky. You should work with a donor sperm bank to obtain the sperm, but I would highly recommend working with a fertility doctor to do intrauterine insemination (IUI). That is the safest method. Give us a call at 1-855-955-BABY (2229) to connect with a fertility doctor who specializes in same-sex couple fertility treatment. Best, Kim

Hi i actually have a question. Me and my girlfriend want to have a baby but we want the baby to look like the both of us. Ill be the to get pregnant but somehow ill have to get one of her eggs as well. Can anyone tell me how i can get started on that?

You can do this, but it has to be done through IVF - which requires your girlfriend take specific medications to release as many eggs as possible, which are then fertilized and transferred to your uterus using the IVF procedure. I live in Canada - here, IVF costs about $10,000.00 plus the cost of medication and the cost of the sperm of course.
A fertility clinic will be able to answer all of your questions - provided, of course, that they are LGBT positive!
Good luck!

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